How to Find A Good Man Who Loves You

Find a Good Man Who Loves You

     I am here to tell you that all men are not dogs! There are plenty of good men who will do the right thing if someone is watching them or not. If a woman is convinced that all men are no good she should take a look within herself and ask the question "why do I attract dogs?" "What's wrong with me?". After a woman asks these questions then she is one step closer to finding a good man who loves her. Following these tips will get you on your way.

1) Take a look on the inside - The first step is to work on you. Everyone has bad qualities or annoying traits about themselves. The key is to minimize yours as much as possible. Find out your "issues". If you don't notice that you have any bad issues about yourself then try to remember things that people told you in the past concerning this. Have you heard "You are too bossy", "You are mean", "You are stubborn", or "You have a drinking problem?" Do some soul searching and be honest with yourself and pick out weaknesses that you can work on.

2) Perfecting your imperfections - Now that you have been real with yourself and found some things to improve here comes the hard part. It is very testing to change something that has been in you for years but the rewards are great. If you are used to getting your way as a child then it is quite natural for you to want to have your way in relationships IE. disregarding the other persons needs to suit your own. Forcing your wants on someone else is a sure way to chase them away. Relationships with one person constantly benefiting and the other not is an imbalance and when things are not balanced they tend to fall. But that's another Hub! Bad habits, however, can be broken. No matter what your problem is tell yourself that you can conquer it. Even if you don't believe it. Hearing is believing when you believe you achieve. With will power, prayer and time you can conquer these things. But first you have to want to correct them. You can find someone who loves you for you with your shortcomings and no one is perfect but make sure that you are walking in love and practice self improvement (it makes you more lovable and attractive :). I will expand more on "walking in love" below.

3) Consistently Chase after God - The benefits of growing closer to God is that you will develop spiritual discernment. You will be able to smell a dog miles away instead of falling for his game and wasting years of your life. Not only do you have the benefits of prayer and other advantages you will have direction and purpose.

4) Know what love is, love it & walk in it - In order to find something you have to know what it is. If you don't know what love is how can you find it. So what is love? 1 Corinthians 13 gives the best definition of love. Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud, rude,self-seeking,easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs, it does not rejoice in evil but rejoices in truth. It always protects, always trusts, hopes and preserves. So if you have a date that is telling you about how much money he has, is not willing to wait on you, brings up your past mistakes or gets mad at you for silly things, etc you may want to find a new one.

The problem with many of us women (and men) is that we are attracted to the good looks, the car, the fun, the money. But all that stuff is superficial and to find something that is going to last you have to be of substance and seek a mate of substance.

This may sound crazy but it is the truth. Some women are attracted to bad guys. If you are one of these women then you may have to go through a little more pain and drama before you realize that you deserve better. But when you are done with all the drama remember this: You may have to teach yourself how to love a good man. A lot of times women who like bad guys tend to try to run over and disrespect a good guy because they feel there is no challenge. This is a sign of immaturity and should be dealt with. A good man deserves respect.

5) Walk in Confidence - One thing that attracts a good man to a good woman is confidence. If you look like Tyrah Banks or like Ugly Betty these laws apply to you! Because it is not how you look on the outside it is how you feel on the inside. Look your best always. You never know when you will run into that God sent man. I can tell you this, it may be when you least expect it.

Don't come across as desperate when you are engaging with a prospect. Find a hobby or something productive that can occupy your mind while you wait for your king. A man loves a woman that has things going on for herself. Start a business, draw or join a neighborhood club. Being a part of something positive gives you the sense that you are useful and not lonely and desperate.

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Proof that God Exists

...and the power of prayer

I promise you that this story is so real. You may find it hard to believe but from time to time people are faced with the temptation of the doubting of God. When I was faced with such temptations I would remember what happened to me and what I saw on this day. The thought of this incident put my faith in God back in check!

What I saw


I wasn't saved forever. In fact I used to be in the streets real bad in and out of jail. This one particular time when I was locked up I met a another girl. For the purpose of her privacy I'll call her Neesha. Neesha was my cell mate. We talked and we laughed she seemed pretty cool. Well, This other girl...I'll call her Boom-keke, seemed to have a problem with Neesha. I,still to this day, don't know what Neesha did to Boom-keke that made her hate her so much. Boom-keke just got to the point were she snapped. When we assembled for population Boom-keke jumped in Neesha's face threatening to kill her. Well Neesha was pregnant so Neesha was not wanting to fight Boom-keke I'm sure if Neesha wasn't pregnant she wouldn't have wanted to fight Boom-keke because Boom-keke was a big,butch female who walked and talked like a man.The gaurds rushed in and sent them to there cell.
That night I went in my cell Neesha and I start talking about the whole thing and Neesha decided she wanted to put a spell on Boom-keke and she need for me to get her real name off of her id wrist-band. I took the whole thing for a big joke anyway so I agreed.
The next morning at breakfast I sat next to Boom-keke and got the info. Neeha took that info and went back into the cell. She started drawing stuff on the wall. It looked like a star, circles and Boom-keke's info. I still didn't think anything of it so I carried on as usual.
During the daytime, I am in population and Neesha is in our cell. The next thing I see is people crowding around my cell. So I push through the crowd to see whats going on. Neesha drew an even bigger circle in the middle of the floor and is sitting and chanting.
That night. I was in the bed about to go to sleep and Neesha stayed up chanting. All of a sudden we heard these cries. It was like who ever was in the cell above was being tormented or tortured. I didn't know this at the time but Boom-keke's cell was directly above ours. The cries continued and Neesha sat at the door smiling with a devilish look.
 
In the daytime we assembled in population with even more tension between Boom-keke and Nesha but this time Boom-keke had a very strange look on her face and was just starring at Neesha.That night when I was in bed things felt a little different to me. I felt like someone else was in the room with me other than Neesha. To explain things better It felt like someone was standing at the side of my bed but when I turned around no one was there. I tried to ignore it and go to sleep but that seemed impossible at the time.


I was not into God and church then but I did know enough to pray.I did not want Neesha to know I was praying so I wasn't obvious. I said a little prayer to God asking him to get rid of anything in this room that is making me uneasy and anything that is unlike you. I continued to pray and I started to feel comfortable enough to go to sleep and feel the presence go away. I looked up and even though it was dark I could see Neesha's face from the light shining through the door. I asked her if everything is ok is the spell working. She looked at me with a puzzled face and said."It's not working. Somebody is praying!". Right then and there I realized the power of prayer. And if prayer is real so is God as there would have to be someone to pray to.
See in the physical realm(what we see) this is just a nice story. But in the spiritual realm (things unseen) it is spiritual warfare. Neesha needed demonic forces to complete her spell. Demons were in that cell that day but

God sent and angel to cast them out.

Realize your God given power...

Jesus summoned His twelve disciples and gave them authority over unclean spirits, to cast them out, and to heal every kind of disease and every kind of sickness.

-Mathew 10:1